When you hear the word “success”, what comes to mind? For many teens and young adults, it’s tied to either athletic accomplishments or acceptance into a prestigious college. Dictionary.com defines the word “success” as “the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.” While this definition could describe what success means for one, it only scratches the surface of what success truly is. What we define as success can differ significantly from person to person depending on personal aspirations and goals.
Today, there is a growing shift toward redefining success as something more personal, rooted in fulfillment and happiness rather than external markers such as a title or wealth. Yet, despite this shift, the pressure to meet societal expectations remains strong. Whether it’s parents, teachers, peers or social media, the push to create an external image of “success” often conflicts with our personal goals.
As a high school student, it can be easy to get lost in the expectations of others. In school, “success” is often measured by grades, extracurriculars and how difficult your schedule appears. While these may represent a bright future for some, they don’t match with everyone’s true desires. In these cases, the definition of success becomes something imposed onto you, instead of something that you shape yourself.
Despite their best intentions, parents can sometimes add onto this stress by encouraging choices that reflect their own ideal picture of success. While they may envision a certain future for their child– one with a well-respected career and a family by their side– it doesn’t always mean that their child’s interests match. This disconnect between family members has the power to create internal conflict within someone who is torn between pleasing their parents and following their own dreams.
The pressure coming from social media only adds yet another layer. Platforms like Instagram, TikTok and Facebook are filled with people showcasing their so-called “perfect” lives full of college acceptances and athletic commitments. It’s easy to look at these posts and feel like you’re falling behind, especially when so many people appear to be living the dream already. This standard set by social media makes it even more difficult to trust yourself and continue on the path you set for yourself
The truth is, the term and meaning of the word “success” is not one-size-fits-all. Everyone has different passions, goals and definitions of what it means to be truly successful. For one person success could mean becoming a doctor, lawyer or business person. For another, success might mean traveling the world, starting a passion project or giving back to the community. Nevertheless, no one path is better than the other. What really matters is that the pursuit of success is aligned with personal values and desires.
Ultimately, success is not a destination– it’s a journey. It’s about striving for a goal that brings you happiness, fulfillment and a sense of purpose. It’s important to note that success is not about perfection; it’s about finding satisfaction in something you are truly passionate about.
Whether your dream is to become a scientist, an artist, an entrepreneur or something else entirely, your version of success is valid. Life is not meant to be full of comparison or bringing yourself down, it’s about fulfillment. And if that may mean something different than the person sitting next to you, so be it. The freedom to define success on your own terms is one of the most special things about it.
